Wednesday, October 31, 2012
SEDUCTION PROCESS FOUR- Appear to be an Object of Desire- Create Triangles
Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid or neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest. We want what other people want. To draw your victims closer and make them hungry to possess you, you must create an aura of desirability, of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention, to win you away from a crowd of admires. Manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding yourself with members of the opposite sex- friends former lovers, present suitors. Create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise you value. Build a reputation that precedes you: if many have succumb to your charms, there must be a reason.
The keys to the seduction in this process: We are social creatures, and are immensely influenced by the taste and desires of other people. Imagine a large social gathering. You see a man alone, whom nobody talks to for any length of time, and who is wandering around without company; isn't there a kind of self-fulfilling isolation about him? Why is he alone? Why is he avoided? There has to be a reason. Until someone takes pity on this man and starts up a conversation with him, he will look unwanted. But over there, in another corner, is a woman surrounded by people. They laugh at her remarks, and as they laugh, others join the group, attracted by its gaiety. When she moves around, people follow. Her face is glowing with attention. There has to be a reason.
In both cases, of course, there doesn't actually have to be a reason at all. The neglected man may have quite charming qualities? Supposing you ever talk to him; but most likely you won't. Desirability is a social illusion. Its source is less what you say or do, or any kind of boasting or self-advertisement, than the sense that other people desire you. To turn your targets interest into something deeper, into desire, you must make them see you as a person whom others cherish. Make people compete for your attention, make them see you as sought after by everyone else. The aura of desirability will envelope you.
Your admirers can be friends or even suitors. Call it the herem effect. Your reputation, your illustrious past as a seducer...... is an effective way of creating an aura of desirability. Women threw themselves at Errol Flynn's feet, not because of his handsome face, and certainly not because of his acting skills, but because of his reputation. They new that other women finds him irresistible. Once he had established their reputation, he did not have to chase women anymore; they came for him. Your own reputation may not be so alluring, but you must find a way to suggest to your victim that others, many others, have found you desirable, (Excerpted from: The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene}