Friday, March 29, 2013

TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRAIGE WORK

Yes, It is possible to make a marriage work after infidelity and restore a relationship that has become important in your life, the good news is that once these other problems are identified and corrected, Whether you are the one guilty of the infidelity or the victim of it, these tips given here can actually work for you.

Following this advice can quicken the healing process help you get back together, while I cannot promise the process is ever easy or pain free.

Tip number one: Take care of the repair process-
You need to take charge of the repair and healing process, if you want to save a marriage that has been the victim of infidelity. If you are the one at fault or not, it really does not matter! By taking the lead you can clear the path toward a reconciliation that will make you feel better and potentially get you both back into an enjoyable marriage sooner but at the same time you cannot make your spouse do anything. To behave in a non_antagonist manner toward you and join the effort to repair the relationship, this also gives your spouse "permission".

Tip number two: Avoid the blame game-
They may try to blame it on you for not providing what they needed in the relationship, if your spouse is the one who cheated. Certainly they are at fault for their actions regardless, whether there is truth in this or not. On either of those points, but do not apologise on their part, you may offer an apology for any fault on your part but not "theirs". To save a marriage after infidelity or make either one of you feel any better long term, trying to lay blame on one another is not going to solve the problem.

Tip number three: Try to find the reasons-
Try to determine what the root cause of the infidelity was, while carefully avoiding blame and excuses. Some need or needs were obviously not met in the relationship, find out what they were. Without accusing anyone of anything, the purpose here is to determine what needs fixing and how to fix it. So you each may have to leave pride at the door and be brutally honest, the goal is to get back together.
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