Most of us understand that certain actions on our part will have a pleasing and seductive effect on the person we would like to seduce. The problem is that we are generally too self-absorbed. We may occasionally do what is seductive, but often we follow this up with a selfish or aggressive action (we are in a hurry to get what we want); or, unaware of what we are doing, we show a side of ourselves that is petty and banal, thus deflating any illusions or fantasies a person might have about us. Our attempts at seduction usually do not last long enough to create much of an effect.
You will not seduce anyone by simply depending on your engaging personality, or occasionally doing something noble or alluring. You have to arm yourself with a series of tactics that will help you get out of yourself and into the mind of your victim, so that you can play it like an instrument. Because people`s thoughts tend to resolve around their daily concerns and insecurities, you cannot proceed with a seduction until you slowly put their anxieties to sleep and fill their distracted minds with thoughts of you.
You have to constantly surprise your victims, stir things up, even shock them. At all costs resist the temptation to hurry to the climax of your seduction, or to improvise. You are not being seductive but selfish. Everything in daily life is hurried and improvised, you need to offer something different. By taking your time and respecting the seductive process you will not only break down your victim`s resistance, you will make them fall in love.{Excerpted from: The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene}
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